Today’s coaching session is an unusual one. In this session, I am working with Ebaad who is originally from Pakistan, now in Boston, where he is a software developer and instructor.
In this episode, we unexpectedly explore a topic that is rarely discussed in business circles: childhood trauma and how it can fuel ambition and perfectionism, often to the detriment of the ambitious and high-achieving business owner.
I had many a-ha’s in this coaching session. I realized I’ve been looking to find salvation in overworking. To fill a hole of my own perceived insignificance. Now, when I’m working, I want to make sure I am doing it for the right reasons not as a defense mechanism. Also, it is important to move forward rather than create a lot of movement, to focus on direction over ambition.
Ambition and perfectionism are a bad mix. Ambition keeps me going on full throttle and perfectionism slows me down. They are two opposing forces!
I liked your idea that there are certain needs we have as children to validate if we don’t get that, we become starved for it. We try to get it in other ways, like working.
Here is the quote I mentioned from East of Eden by Steinbeck:
“The greatest terror a child can have is that he is not loved, and rejection is the hell he fears. I think everyone in the world to a large or small extent has felt rejection. And with rejection comes anger, and with anger some kind of crime in revenge for the rejection, and with the crime guilt—and there is the story of mankind…One child, refused the love he craves, kicks the cat and hides his secret guilt; and another steals so that money will make him loved; and a third conquers the world—and always the guilt and revenge and more guilt. The human is the only guilty animal.”
Looking forward to getting more insights in the next session!
Ebaad
Click to find out more about the Monthly Webinars and Workshops
Schedule a Private Coaching Session with Kristin Morrison
Want to create your Best Year Yet? Here is the info about Kristin’s Best Year Coaching
Schedule an in-person VIP Coaching Day in Hawaii or California
Click to join the Business Pathfinder Facebook Group
Click to apply to get coached by Kristin Morrison on the Business Pathfinder podcast
Connect with Kristin Morrison on Instagram @coachkristinmorrison
This is not a “fluff session” – you’ll receive a top-notch coaching session from Kristin Morrison and walk away with actionable steps that will get you pointed in the right direction in your business and/or your personal life!
Come join this group of supportive business owners in the private Facebook group! You’ll get updates each time a new episode drops so you don’t miss a thing, have the opportunity to discuss podcast topics with other podcast listeners, and find out about tips, tools and strategies to create a better business and personal life. You may even meet some of the people coached on the podcast in the private Facebook group!
Are your customers savvy business owners who love professional and personal growth? Or do you want to reach humans who want to discover how to create or live their best possible life? If so, you’ve found your tribe. Your ideal clients and customers are listening to the Business Pathfinder podcast!
When you sponsor the podcast, you can have your marketing message heard by a passionate group of entrepreneurs, innovators and those who want to create a rich life.
Please note: Regardless of the amount of money sponsors offer to pay to reach Business Pathfinder listeners, Kristin only accepts sponsors whose messaging and values align with these values of the podcast including:
If you’re interested in becoming a sponsor to reach a large number of business owners, click the button below and we’ll be in touch shortly!
I love hearing from you podcast listeners, and I especially love hearing your voices.
If you’d like to leave me a voicemail, click the button to leave your message.
Not sure what to say to me?
Here are some ideas:
I look forward to hearing from you,
